Out-neutral / Advice url
Examine-2
- Get both sides of the story.
- There’s more to it than that.
- There’s more to it that meets the eye.
- Take note of it.
- Get to the root of the problem.
- Keep your eyes peeled.
- You’ll see.
- A picture is worth a thousand words
Examine-2
In-positive / Determination url
Therapist with patient
- Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
- This is an opportunity of a lifetime.
- I’m going to tell it to you straight, even if it means bursting your balloon.
- Rome wasn’t built in a day.
- There’s nothing that we can’t do if we put our minds to it.
- Let’s not give up before we start.
- There are so many false starts, but it’s important that we don’t give up hope.
- There’s more than one way to skin a cat.
- It doesn’t have to be that way.
- Unfortunately we often have to learn the hard way.
- Let’s start tying up loose ends.
- All beginnings are hard.
- Often just when we think it will be clear sailing from here on in, POW – something unexpected comes from out of the blue to blow our well laid plans to smithereens, and suddenly it’s back to the drawing board, forcing us to rethink the whole thing through from start to finish, from soup to nuts.
Therapist with patient
In-positive / Surprise url
A friend leaves town without telling anyone
- He’s vanished into thin air.
- He suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth.
- It happened in a way that we least expected.
- I’m in a state of shock.
- You’ve got to be kidding me.
- I had a sneaking suspicion that this was going to happen.
- I would never have suspected that.
- Woah, I am shocked.
A friend leaves town without telling anyone
In-positive / Confidence url
After finding way out of the forest
- Throughout the whole situation I was cool as a cucumber.
- It went off without a hitch.
- I’m sure it’s going to be smooth sailing ahead.
- It won’t happen again.
- I’m a better person after what I’ve learned from this experience.
- Sometimes we learn the most from our challenges.
- Climbing up the mountain took the wind out of me, and I had to rest for an hour before continuing my trek.
After finding way out of the forest
In-neutral / Acceptance url
Asking someone for a date, and being told no
- I’m hearing the message loud and clear.
- All’s fair in love and war.
- Time heals all wounds.
- I could have guessed as much.
- I guess it just wasn’t meant to be.
- It doesn’t matter to me in the least.
- I get the drift.
- That’s just the way people are.
- I don’t really mind.
- Love makes the world go around.
- Your wish is my command.
- You can’t say I didn’t try.
Asking someone for a date, and being told no
Out-neutral / Advice url
Open up
- Get it all out in the open.
- Just let it all out.
- Get it all out of your system once and for all.
- Don’t keep your feelings inside.
- Cry your heart out.
- Your feelings are all bottled up.
Open up
Out-neutral / Negotiating url
Can you see my viewpoint?
- Do you have any idea what I’m talking about?
- Do you read me?
- Am I getting through to you?
- Do I make myself clear?
- Are we on the same page?
- Do you get the picture?
- Do you know what I mean?
- Do you see what I mean?
- How does that grab you?
- Will you consider it?
- Do you understand?
- How can I make you understand?
- You can understand, can’t you?
- Catch my drift?
- Will that present a problem?
- Does that ring a bell?
- Will you think about what I said?
- First off, let’s make sure that we’re on the same page.
- I’m just letting you know that this is how I see the situation.
- I'm just trying to be helpful.
Can you see my viewpoint?
Out-neutral / Observation url
About Others – Neutral-3
- She talks a mile a minute.
- She’s got a vivid imagination.
- She didn’t even bat an eye.
- She’s going through a phase.
- She wears the pants in the family.
- They need all the help they can get.
- They’re really living high on the hog, but I suspect that it’s beyond their means.
- He’s got to work this out for himself.
- She’ll show her true colors.
- She’ll change her tune.
- I didn’t see neither hide nor hair of him since it happened.
About Others – Neutral-3
In-negative / Desperation url
House flooded by hurricane
- I feel like my whole world is slowly coming apart at the seams.
- It’s even worse than I thought.
- I can’t stand it anymore.
- I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.
- Take me away from here.
- Why does everything always happen to me?
- Wake me when it’s over.
- When it rains it pours.
- What's the use?
- That was the straw that broke the camels back.
- It really threw me for a loop.
House flooded by hurricane
Out-neutral / Negotiating url
You will win
- I’m at your mercy.
- You saw through me.
- You’ve got me in the palm of your hand.
- I’ve painted myself into a corner that I can’t get out of.
- OK, I give in, you win, what’s next?
- You’re making out like a bandit.
- You have me over a barrel.
You will win
In-negative / Confusion url
Waking up after a deep sleep.
- I fell into a deep sleep, and when I woke up I was so disoriented that for a short while I couldn’t remember where I was.
- My mind is going in ten different directions.
- I don’t know what to make of it.
- What time is it?
- How did I get here?
- I could use a breath of fresh air.
- What’s going on here?
- I don’t have the bandwidth to deal with it right now.
- I don’t feel like myself.
- I’m so tired, I can hardly see straight.
Waking up after a deep sleep.
Out-negative / Anger url
You have gone too far
- I think you’ve gone just a little bit too far this time.
- You’re in big trouble.
- Are you threatening me?
- Now that was a cheap shot.
- You’re down right nasty.
- Aren’t you carrying this a bit too far?
- Who the heck do you think you are?
- Stop that hanky-panky.
- Don’t you have a shred of decency?
- Is nothing sacred anymore?
- How can anyone in his right mind say something like what you just said.
You have gone too far