In-neutral / Acceptance url
Buying a car
- I dropped a bundle on it, but I’m glad I bought it.
- The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
- How can I resist?
- I might as well.
- You never get something for nothing.
- It’s growing on me.
- It’s the best that I can do.
Buying a car
In-positive / Hope url
Looking for a lost dog
- I’m sure that something will come up.
- Let’s hope for the best.
- I certainly hope so.
- With a bit of luck perhaps it will all work out fine in the end.
- There’s light at the end of the tunnel.
- Anything’s possible.
- Even if it doesn’t turn out for the best, we’ll eventually recover.
- Even in the worst scenario, we’ll be back on our feet in no time at all.
- You never know.
- There’s always hope.
- The darkest time is just before the dawn.
- Hopefully we will soon see light at the end of the tunnel.
Looking for a lost dog
Out-negative / Anger url
Shut up
- Keep your big mouth shut.
- Don’t talk behind my back.
- Don’t be coarse.
- Don’t snap at me.
- I don’t like your tone of voice.
- Shut your trap.
- You have a foul mouth.
- Take that back.
Shut up
Out-positive / Concern url
To a friend whose new job is harder than he expected
- How’s this working out for you?
- Perhaps you got more than you bargained for.
- Your old job is a hard act to follow.
- You have to give it time for the dust to settle, to see if it works out.
- Things sometimes get worse before they get better.
- This is a chance for you to show your mettle.
- Rise to the challenge!
To a friend whose new job is harder than he expected
Out-neutral / Advice url
Restraint-2
- Don’t let the cat out of the bag.
- Don’t make matters worse.
- Keep it under your hat.
- Get a hold of yourself.
- Just try not to go overboard doing it, both in terms of time and money.
- Get control of yourself.
- Button your lip.
- Try and get a hold of yourself.
- I know that may feel good to speak your mind and get things off your chest, but sometimes it’s better just to bite your tongue.
Restraint-2
Out-neutral / Negotiating url
This is my viewpoint
- I hope I’m making it crystal clear.
- That just what I said.
- I rest my case.
- I made my point.
- I’ll get right to the point.
- You know where I stand.
- I meant what I said.
- For whatever it’s worth, here are my 2 cents.
- I really mean it.
- It’s all here in black and white.
- That’s my point exactly.
- Let’s set the record straight.
- If you get my drift.
- I’m well aware of that.
- There’s something you ought to know.
- Of course that’s what I meant.
- You can talk till you’re blue in the face, you still won’t convince me.
- I hate to be blunt.
- There’s no, ifs ands or buts about it.
- I’ll be honest with you.
- Take it or leave it.
- What you see is what you get.
- If you want a deal, you’re going to have to up the ante.
- I’m going to cut to the chase.
- It doesn’t make sense to do it any other way.
- I wanted to run this idea by you.
This is my viewpoint
In-positive / Determination url
Student work on a term-paper
- This deserves my total focus and undivided attention.
- I’m sure I’ll get the hang of it and feel more familiar with the whole topic.
- I’ll get it done in no time at all.
- I’m going to hit the ground running.
- The task I faced was difficult, but I rose to the challenge.
- We’re wrapping it up.
- There’s no time like the present.
- Stay the course.
- I really have my work cut out for me.
Student work on a term-paper
In-positive / Confidence url
To a child going in for an operation
- It’ll be over before you know it.
- It’s all going to work out.
- It’s going to be alright.
- It’ll happen before you know it.
- We’ll pull you through it fine.
- It should be smooth sailing ahead.
- We’re in the best of hands.
- You don’t have to worry about a thing.
- You’ll be very well taken care of.
To a child going in for an operation
Out-positive / Encouragement url
For a friend who just got an A average
- You passed with flying colors.
- That’s my boy!
- You out-did yourself.
- You did that well.
- All things considered, I think you did a great job, and you should be proud of what you were able to accomplish.
- That’s using your head.
- Nobody can do it better.
- That’s fantastic.
- Kudos to you!
- Your mind is sharp as a tack.
- Your in a class all by yourself.
- You should be proud of yourself.
- That’s a major accomplishment.
- I always knew you had it in you.
For a friend who just got an A average
Out-neutral / Advice url
Hope
- Life is worth living.
- Every cloud has a silver lining.
- Tomorrow is another day.
- Better luck next time.
- Look on the bright side.
- Count your blessings.
- Appreciate it while it lasts.
- Little things mean a lot.
- Things often have a way of just working themselves out.
Hope
Out-neutral / Observation url
About Others – Positive-1
- He knows the ropes.
- He knows everything there is to know about it.
- He’s young at heart.
- He has a friend in high places.
- They’re rolling in dough.
- He’s going to take on the whole world.
- It’s a whole lot for him to handle, and considering what he’s been through, I think he’s holding up pretty well under the circumstances.
- She can take care of herself.
- It’s just another example of hometown boy makes good.
- You’ve got to give them credit.
- He’s a chip off the old block.
- They’re like two peas in a pod.
- He’s got money to burn.
- He’s in a class all by himself.
- He’s a man of means.
- He’s an upstanding citizen.
About Others – Positive-1
In-positive / Determination url
Therapist with patient
- Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
- This is an opportunity of a lifetime.
- I’m going to tell it to you straight, even if it means bursting your balloon.
- Rome wasn’t built in a day.
- There’s nothing that we can’t do if we put our minds to it.
- Let’s not give up before we start.
- There are so many false starts, but it’s important that we don’t give up hope.
- There’s more than one way to skin a cat.
- It doesn’t have to be that way.
- Unfortunately we often have to learn the hard way.
- Let’s start tying up loose ends.
- All beginnings are hard.
- Often just when we think it will be clear sailing from here on in, POW – something unexpected comes from out of the blue to blow our well laid plans to smithereens, and suddenly it’s back to the drawing board, forcing us to rethink the whole thing through from start to finish, from soup to nuts.
Therapist with patient