Out-positive / Concern url
To a friend who is trying to decide whether to marry their boyfriend
- How do you feel about it?
- So what did you finally decide?
- Are you having second thoughts?
- You’re such a worry-wart.
- You look puzzled.
- You’re a scaredy cat.
- In your investigation, did you come up with anything?
- Perhaps you should consider being a little bit more flexible.
- You can’t be too careful.
- Why are you fighting it?
- Look before you leap.
- He who hesitates is lost.
- Perhaps you shouldn't be too judgmental.
- Have an open mind.
- I have some information, does it ring a bell?
- Don’t let yourself get rushed into it.
- Look before you leap.
To a friend who is trying to decide whether to marry their boyfriend
In-positive / Hope url
Before they announce the winner of the lottery
- I think this is it.
- It’s the chance of a lifetime.
- You know anything’s possible!
- We’re banking on it.
- Even if we don’t win, there’s always next year.
- One could only hope.
- This is the moment that we’ve all been waiting for.
- Maybe it will be different this time.
- Keep your fingers crossed.
- We’re hoping there’s a pot of gold on the other side of the rainbow.
- The price is right.
- I hope and pray that the money will now just start rolling in.
- This could be our ticket to freedom.
- Hope springs eternal.
- I have high hopes for it.
- I have a lot riding on it.
- A big change for the better might be just around the corner.
- It would be the answer to my prayers.
Before they announce the winner of the lottery
Out-neutral url
Patience-2
- Don’t make a snap decision.
- Rome wasn’t built in a day.
- She just needs time.
- Sleep on it.
- Sit tight!
- It takes time.
- Be patient and cool your heels, because I fully expect that she’ll come around eventually.
- Keep your shirt on.
- We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.
Patience-2
Out-negative / Anger url
I see that you are bad
- What do you take me for?
- Do you take me for a fool?
- Don’t play me for a fool.
- You’re as spoiled as a rotten egg.
- Have you got something up your sleeve?
- I don’t like what’s going down.
- The whole situation makes me sick to my stomach.
- You’re an accident looking for a place to happen.
- You rub me the wrong way.
- You’re a disgrace to humanity.
- You should be ashamed of yourself!
- You are down right pathetic.
- I had the feeling you’re up to something.
- You’re lying through your teeth.
- That’s a bald faced lie.
- I bet your plan is the stab me in the back when I’m not expecting it.
- How can anyone in his right mind do something like what you just did.
I see that you are bad
In-negative / Explaining url
After investing in worthless land
- I fell for it hook, line and sinker.
- I had no idea what I was getting myself into.
- I should have known.
- It seemed like the right to do thing at the time.
- It took me totally by surprise.
- I was talked into it.
- The thought that this would be such a bad decision never crossed my mind.
- There’s not a whole lot I can do about it at this point.
- That never would have dawned on me.
- I didn’t see it coming.
- In theory that was how it was supposed to play out, but in actuality that’s not what happened.
- How was I supposed to know that?
- It beats me how that could have happened.
- It was an honest mistake.
- It could happen to anyone.
- I’m sorry that things didn’t work out the way I expected them to.
- I found out the hard way.
- The thought never even crossed my mind.
- That was something I wasn’t even aware of.
- Frankly, it’s just not something I could have anticipated.
- That’s something I just didn’t count on.
- They really took me to the cleaners.
- I must admit, from the beginning the whole thing wasn’t clear to me, and went way over my head.
- I was a sitting duck.
- I was being penny wise and pound foolish.
After investing in worthless land
In-negative / Desperation url
Losing a job
- I can’t tell you how awful it is.
- I’m going to lose my mind.
- After what I’ve been through, I don’t know which way is up.
- It’s a lost cause.
- It’s a no win situation.
- It’s all downhill from here.
- It’s a sad state of affairs.
- It feels like things are spinning out of control.
- This is driving me up a wall.
- I’m at loose ends.
- It all seems like a bad dream.
- I feel like I’m on the ropes.
- I think I’m going to throw in the towel.
- After I try my best, and I find a lot of good that does.
- Where can I turn to?
- It hit me like a ton of bricks.
Losing a job
In-negative / Desperation url
Missing the last train
- It’s enough to make me cry.
- I’ve had all I can handle.
- I'm coming apart at the seams.
- I just can’t take it anymore.
- I can hardly stand it.
- It’s driving me crazy.
- That’s the kind of day it’s been.
- I needed that like a hole in the head.
- I shouldn’t have waited till the last minute.
Missing the last train
Out-positive / Agreement url
I need you to stop looking at your cell phone while you’re talking to me
- You have my undivided attention.
- I hear you loud and clear.
- You’ve got a good point there.
- That sounds fair to me.
- You have my word.
- I’m slowly coming around to your way of seeing things.
- As you wish.
- I know what you mean.
- I can relate to that.
- I stand corrected.
- I read you loud and clear.
I need you to stop looking at your cell phone while you’re talking to me
Out-neutral / Advice url
Calm down
- You’re too up tight.
- Loosen up.
- Don’t get hot under the collar.
- Don’t take leave of your senses.
- Don’t let your imagination run away with itself.
- Get a handle on it.
- Don’t blow your cool.
- Don’t be so hard on yourself.
- Don’t worry, you’ll get over it.
- Stop feeling sorry for yourself!
- Don’t mope around.
- Try and catch your breath.
- You shouldn’t go around like a chicken with its head cut off.
- Don’t worry about it, it was a freak occurrence, and chances are it’ll never happen again.
- Take a deep breath, and try to pull yourself together.
Calm down
Out-neutral / Advice url
Control yourself
- Don’t let it get out of hand.
- Don’t let it go to your head.
- Don’t take it so personally.
- Don’t take the law into your own hands.
- Just try to remember that mum’s the word, and try your best to not let it slip out when you are caught off guard.
- Keep a hold on the situation.
- Don’t boast about it.
- Get a grip on yourself.
- Don’t resort to violence.
- I think one of the problems is that you’ve been bouncing from one extreme to another.
- Don’t air your dirty laundry out in public.
- You’ve got to snap out of it.
- Now get serious, and stop horsing around.
- You have to quit cold turkey.
- Get a hold of yourself.
- Why take a chance?
Control yourself
Out-neutral / Negotiating url
Let’s work things out-3
- It’s easy to have 20-20 vision about things that happened in the past.
- We both have to admit that neither one of us saw it coming.
- There are no guarantees.
- Let’s get it out in the open.
- So what’s the bottom line?
- Now let’s get things out in the open.
- We both want the same thing.
- Let’s have the whole story out in the open.
- I’ll be glad to answer any questions you might have.
- Take all the time in the world.
- It doesn’t have to be that way.
- If that’s all right with you.
- Does it really matter?
- I’ll give it a try.
Let’s work things out-3
In-negative / Confusion url
Lost in a forest
- I don’t know whether I’m coming or going.
- Do you think that we’re getting anywhere?
- What am I supposed to do?
- I can’t figure out what’s going on, and I feel like I’m shooting in the dark.
- How am I going to pull this off?
- I’m on a wild goose chase.
- What are we going to do now?
- So now what do I do?
- What’s going on?
- I don’t know what I’m going to do.
Lost in a forest