Out-neutral / Negotiating url
I don’t understand your point
- That doesn’t make any sense to me.
- That has nothing to do with it.
- I don’t know what you’re talking about.
- Where are you coming from?
- You’d have to be a fool to think that.
- Anyone with half a brain knows that.
- That’s a little hard to swallow.
- That's neither here nor there.
- You’re being simple minded.
- I’m not convinced.
- What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?
- That’s out of the question.
- We don't see eye to eye.
- Do expect me to take that seriously.
I don’t understand your point
Out-negative / Push away url
I won’t do it
- I don’t feel like it.
- It’s not my cup of tea.
- I will do no such thing.
- It just isn’t for me.
- I need that like a hole in the head.
- Leave me out of it.
- I don’t have time for that nonsense.
- That’s none of your business.
- That’s out of the question.
- Under no circumstances!
- Not on your life.
- Nothing doing.
I won’t do it
Out-positive / Agreement url
Would you like to take another laptop similar to the one I gave you last time?
- I’ll give it a try.
- That's certainly fine with me.
- That would be perfect.
- That would be a win-win situation.
- I'd be glad to take it off your hands.
- I’ll take anything you have to offer.
- Of course I wouldn't mind.
- How could I forget how well it worked out last time.
- I’ll be glad to.
- I certainly will.
- You know it.
- If you don't need it, it's like one hand washing the other.
Would you like to take another laptop similar to the one I gave you last time?
Out-positive / Friendship url
Offering help-1
- If there’s anything you want or need, at anytime, don’t hesitate to ask.
- Your wish is my command.
- I haven’t failed you yet.
- I’ll help you every step of the way.
- I’ll be right with you.
- I could teach you a thing or two.
- I’ll be your rock of Gibraltar.
- You have my word on it.
- I’m pleased to be of help.
- If you need me, you know where to find me.
- I’m never too busy for you.
- I’ll back you a 100 percent.
- You can count on me.
Offering help-1
Out-neutral / Advice url
Don’t worry
- Don’t be a worry-wart.
- Don’t worry about it.
- Put it out of your mind.
- Don’t sit around moping, and get on with your life.
- I wouldn’t worry about it if I were you.
- You should look at the bright side of things, and not always be filled with doom and gloom.
- His bark is worse than his bite.
Don’t worry
Out-neutral / Advice url
Realistic-1
- Try to be realistic, don’t be fooled by wishful thinking.
- You’re kidding yourself.
- You can only go so far.
- Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.
- Life’s not fun and games.
- In my opinion, you’re just fooling yourself.
- I’m just suggesting that you should look at your options again, because in the long run, I think you’re setting yourself up for endless let downs.
- Try to see the situation for what it is, because it’s better if you don’t have to learn that the hard way.
- It’s a question you have to ask yourself.
- You have to be realistic.
- You’re living in a fool’s paradise.
- The reason your ideas are not more successful is that they are all half-baked.
- You’re spending money like it was going out of style.
Realistic-1
In-positive / Confidence url
After winning an election
- I must be doing something right.
- I know the ropes.
- That’s progress.
- They are behind us 100 percent.
- I deserve it.
- I like to keep tabs on things.
- And away we go.
- Everything’s coming up roses.
- Nothing succeeds like success.
- Fasten your seatbelts, because from this point on, I predict things are really going to start happening.
- I pulled victory out of the jaws of defeat.
- I’m looking forward to serving in my new position, and making a positive contribution.
- I knew I would win, hands down.
After winning an election
Out-neutral / Observation url
About Others – Negative-2
- She’s as skinny as a rail.
- She’s as cold as a fish.
- He’s loosing his nerve.
- She’s gone overboard, and I don’t see that there’s any restraint in what she’s doing.
- He’s torn apart inside.
- She’s crying her eyes out.
- She wouldn’t lift a finger.
- I don’t think he’ll be very pleased.
- I feel bad for him.
- He’s really off the wall.
- He’s having trouble making ends meet.
- His stomach’s a bottomless pit.
- He thinks that everything is coming to him.
About Others – Negative-2
In-positive / Determination url
Husband and wife trying to work things out
- This a golden opportunity.
- Let’s take care of this right now.
- Time to switch gears.
- We’ve put it off long enough.
- Let’s see what we can do about it.
- Let’s start the ball rolling.
- Where there’s a will there’s a way.
- Onwards and upwards.
- We still have a long way to go.
- There’s one way to find out.
- I think the time has come for us to turn over a new leaf.
- Let’s give it our best shot.
- First things first.
- There's nothing that we can't do.
- We can work it out.
- There's a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
- Give me space, I need a little bit more breathing room.
- Let's give it time.
- Where does that leave us?
- We need to make up for lost time.
- If we're really open and honest with each other, and both speak from the heart, without being afraid or defensive, perhaps we can really bring out into the open any issues that are bothering us, and get to the bottom of what's getting in the way of our getting closer.
Husband and wife trying to work things out
In-positive / Surprise url
A friend leaves town without telling anyone
- He’s vanished into thin air.
- He suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth.
- It happened in a way that we least expected.
- I’m in a state of shock.
- You’ve got to be kidding me.
- I had a sneaking suspicion that this was going to happen.
- I would never have suspected that.
- Woah, I am shocked.
A friend leaves town without telling anyone
Out-neutral / Advice url
Flexible
- It’s best just to roll with it punches.
- Now let’s switch gears.
- Don’t get bogged down.
- That’s the way to learn how to do things like that.
- You’re as young as you feel.
- Pick up where you left off.
- Variety is the spice of life.
- When in Rome, do as the Roman’s do.
- Give it another shot.
- What have you got to lose?
- Let's play it by ear.
Flexible
In-negative / Doubt url
A friend tells you he’s taking drugs
- You’re throwing away your life.
- Don’t you have a mind of your own?
- Please tell me it’s not true.
- You just brought it all on yourself.
- Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
- Do you know what you’re doing?
- That’s what I call plain old stupidity.
- You must be crazy.
- Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
- I don’t seem to be able to get through to you.
- What are you trying to prove?
- You should have your head examined.
- You knew what you where getting yourself into.
- What are you trying to say?
- Was this your idea?
- It’s your own doing.
- Just look at you.
- Do as you wish, but don’t come crying to me for help when things go downhill.
- It’s the same thing over and over again.
- I don’t think anything I say will convince you one way or another.
- You don’t have anyone to blame but yourself.
- That’s the whole point, and I don’t think you’re hearing a word I’m saying.
- It seems as if what I’m saying is going in one ear and out the other.
- When I talk to you I don’t feel like there’s anybody home.
- What have you gotten yourself into?
A friend tells you he’s taking drugs